Monday, January 28th, 2013

Monday’s Scarf Lesson

Spokesmodel hands!

I promised a while back I’d show you another tie for a large scarf. This one, the “Animal Spirit” stole from L’affaire cashmere is one of my very favorites. It’s super soft, extremely light, and I’ve been wearing it several times a week. Right now, L’affaire cashmere is offering 12% off of all products listed on the website, and gift of a pure silk scarf as well with any purchase. Just use code vd14. This offer is valid until February 10. Shipping is always free, worldwide.

As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve come to believe that wearing scarves and keeping my neck warm in chilly weather helps to ward off illness. But I also have an aversion to anything that feels too bulky or confining around my neck, so have learned several ties that accommodate this preference. While the resulting tie may look like a lot of bulk around the neck, I hardly notice that I’m wearing a scarf at all.

Begin by draping the scarf around the neck with one end quite short. Twisting the scarf a few times as you go (this helps reduce volume) wrap loosely once…

…then twice around the neck.

Both ends will now be short.

Grab one of the loops, and pass one of the ends down through that loop only.

Then grab the other loop, and pass the other end downward through that one.

Adjust as needed.

Et voilà!  This will be included in your final exam.

Happy Monday!

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76 thoughts on “Monday’s Scarf Lesson

  1. Kathy

    I like that way of tying a long scarf, as I don’t like a lot of floppy stuff hanging on me. And I agree, keeping your neck warm does help ward off illness – Chinese medicine is a big proponent of that. Thanks for the tutorial.

  2. Sam

    Thanks for the lesson–as you and others have agreed, the key to warm in winter is a scarf! That particular scarf you’re wearing is fabulous, by the way.

    1. Déjà Pseu

      Kathy, thanks again. These are NYDJ’s, purchased probably a year or more ago. I don’t remember the name of the wash, but they have similar washes available currently. I do prefer a dark wash for the office, as it’s dressier.

    1. Déjà Pseu

      Leslie, thank you! I’ve been reading a new style book by Lois Joy Johnson called “Wardrobe Wakeup” (more about this soon) and she says that for women of a certain age, leopard is “our” neutral.

  3. LunaStitches

    You look great today – I love your jeans. I bought a light weight but voluminuous scarf on sale at Banana Repbulic yesterday and have just tried your tie here at my desk. My scarf isn’t quite as long as yours, but it worked perfectly! Twisting slightly did help to reduce the volume. Thanks so much!

  4. Brenda

    Thanks for the scarf lesson. Love your blog and think your style is fabulous! I have been watching L’affaire for discounts and when you showed one today I was thrilled. So, I guess it was meant for me to purchase a cashmere scarf today (which I of course quickly did).

  5. mette

    Let your hair stay like that, don´t touch it, suits you well.
    I wear a scarf and shawl for warmth too, but don´t pay attention to how I place it ; ).

  6. Anonymous

    I tried this out immediately with a large wool square folded on the bias. It worked out wonderfully, thank you!–adelfa

  7. Joni

    Oh no!! An exam??? I better go study up! I already have a leopard scarf too. Does this count on a curve?? ;)
    Of course I love the colors on you as your haircolor inspired mine!

  8. Duchesse

    I see this fold most often here, way more than the aviator. (But, the aviator stays put.) Quebec winter scarves can approach childrens’ blanket size and the coiled wrap is great b/c you can pull it up to shield the chin and even nose. (It’s strange to see the greenery behind you rather than snow.! Lurrrv the jeans, too.

    1. Déjà Pseu

      Duchesse, this one does stay put if the fabric “grabs” which this one does. Probably wouldn’t work for silk, but the cashmere holds in place. I imagine those large scarves are necessary there in winter to keep out the arctic chill. Thank you!

  9. sophisticatedlady66

    I have been “lurking” for a few months, but I couldn’t resist joining today to comment on how beautiful the scarf is and how marvelous it looks on you! Since I have (yet another!) birthday coming up next month, I now know what will be on the top of my wish list.

    On a side note, I’ve loved reading all your posts and must say this is such a positive, life-affirming and often hilarious site, I’m so glad I found it and all of you.

    A bientot mis Amis nouvelles!

    1. Déjà Pseu

      sophisticatedlady66, thanks so very much! I don’t think you’d go wrong with this or any other cashmere scarf. I’m so glad you’re enjoying the posts! And I’m relieved to hear the tutorial was easy to follow.

  10. sophisticatedlady66

    I forgot to mention, the tutorial was very well explained and easy to follow. As someone who struggles with following directions (in all areas, not just tying scarves), I appreciate the simplicity of your instructions!

  11. Susan Partlan

    Wow. Susan. The first thing I noticed is your stunning photography!

    Is it just me or do you agree you’ve taken it to the next level? Absolutely gorgeous. The lighting on the 2nd up from bottom is perfect.

    As for scarves, I’m sad to say I was initially attracted to them, but learned the hard way, over time, that I just don’t like them on my neck.

    I can still admire the way you wear them :).

    1. Déjà Pseu

      Susan P., thanks so much! Actually I usually just use the auto setting on my DSLR camera. This time it decided it wanted to use flash. I did have to retouch the glare/reflection of the flash on my glasses lenses a bit, but everything else is “as-is.” I know a few people who can’t tolerate any fabric around the neck, but hey, that’s what jewelry is for!

  12. rubiatonta

    That’s a great way of tying a scarf — and I have just the scarf for it. Will have to go dig it out.

    And, as many others have said here, you’re looking fabulosa, querida.

  13. Cornelia

    There is a video on Eileen Fisher’s website about scarf tying including many of the larger sized ones. I too a wear a scarf frequently, being part giraffe and all. :)) I do like the animal print on you, wish I had more guts to try instead of always sticking to the predictable florals and geometrics.

  14. Anonymous

    That is a great look; I tried it myself yesterday and loved it.

    Only thing I’d suggest is that you start with the scarf on its bias to take down some of the bulk and make it look a little more “oh, I just threw this on and it’s perfect.” Grab one of the corners and let the rest of the scarf fall along the bias, then do your wrap. You end up with pointed triangular corners and less bulk in the body of the scarf, rather than square corners. Does that make sense?


  15. Rhiannon at After Plumcake

    So elegantly done, and I bet it would adjust well for those of us whose roundness of face and shortness of neck necessitates a bit more visual space between scarf and chin(s).

    Have I mentioned I adore your haircut? Trop chic.


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