I’m a bit overwhelmed at the response to Monday’s post. I’d like to thank each of you for your feedback and input, and kind words of encouragement and support, as well as constructive criticism. If I could, I’d send you a bouquet as lovely as this to express my appreciation for taking the time to respond and the thoughtfulness of your comments.
As much as I’d like to answer each of you individually, the number of comments soon became daunting. But as several of you made similar points or suggestions, I’ll try to address those here.
Think pieces. A few of you mentioned you’d like to see more of these, and believe me, I’d like to write more of them! Right now a lack of time and especially quiet, uninterrupted time keeps me from being able to finish as many as I’d like. I’ve said before that I feel as though my ideas are circling in a holding pattern like 767’s over JKF, just waiting for space to land. My goal is to write one or two per month while circumstances remain as they are now.
Family. As some of you are aware, we have a teenage son with special needs.I’ve tried to walk a fine line between sharing my experiences and protecting his privacy, but here’s the short version. He had undetected, severe oxygen deprivation in utero which resulted in mild cerebral palsy and severe brain injury. He was born via emergency c-section, and his heart had stopped by the time they got him out. After 19 minutes of resuscitation his Apgar was 0-0-1. HIs first 8 weeks were spent in neo-natal intensive care and the doctors initially did not expect him to live more than a year or two. He just turned 18, and physically is now quite healthy. 🙂 His intellectual/cognitive functioning is generally at a pre-school level, but he’s also in many respects a teenager. He’s a good kid, and social but requires constant supervision, and sometimes has behavioral issues when he doesn’t get his way. (I know, “teenager.”) He went through a period of escalating physical aggression a couple of years ago that nearly broke us all. Things are better now, but the evening and weekend caregiving effort after we’ve both worked a full week is wearing us out, and the older he gets the more difficult it is to find caregivers who are willing and able to handle him. Without in-home help, we really don’t get a break or get out of the house much, as it’s become very difficult for us to take him out into the community on our own. He does go to an amazing school which he loves, and for which we are SO grateful. We have started the process to try to find residential placement for him, in an environment that will support him and encourage as much independence as he is capable of. We’ve been told it’s a good time in his development for this, and we want to do this while we’re still both healthy and able to assist him with the transition to his adult life.
Some of you have mentioned similar challenges or situations with family members. I’m not comfortable sharing much more than I have here, but I am always willing to communicate via email if you have questions or just would like to talk.
Eileen Fisher clothing. Yes, it makes up a substantial percentage of my wardrobe. No, I don’t work for them, have any relationship with the company, or receive any gifted clothing from them. The aesthetic appeals to me and I just find many of the pieces hit that trifecta of a) working with my size/shape b) being travel-friendly and c) being relatively seasonless here in LA, therefore practical. Many of the pieces I have and wear regularly are now a few years old, and I’ve been able to build up a good foundation wardrobe over time.
Fitness routine and self-care. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA….ok I’m back now. Seriously though, what I’m able to manage with my schedule is a 30 minute walk with the dogs every morning, and some stretching and work with hand weights every few evenings. Taking a beginning yoga or Pilates class has been on my wish list for years, and will probably only happen once either I retire from work or we get jeune homme into a residential program. Every three weeks or so I manage to get over the neighborhood nail salon for an express mani-pedi. The rest I do at home myself. None of this is ideal, I know. Work in progress.
Travel-related posts. I still have a few photos and experiences to share from our last trip, and will make a point to schedule those. I’m working on a fall travel wardrobe post that I plan to have completed next week.
Outfit posts. I will continue to do these, and may occasionally add a second one during the week. I hear those of you who feel things have become a bit stale; I’m feeling it too right now, and often find the warmer months the most difficult for putting outfits together creatively. I’m feeling the need to shake things up a bit too, and am looking forward to experimenting a bit more with the new season.
Thanks so much to all of you who responded, and to all of you who read the blog and enjoy it.