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We’re having a lovely spring day here!

Thanks everyone for your comments on Lisa’s and my collaborative style experiment. Just for the record, I had no idea that one of the shirts I’d selected for Lisa was THAT transparent. 😉 But she’s a Sturdy Gal in spirit as well as in style, and forged ahead like a trooper.

The idea of this exercise was to get each other to try a look that was out of character. I think we achieved that. And while the Lisa’s idea for me is objectively a very pretty look, it isn’t my look. I’ve been trying to figure out how to describe the sensation and the word I keep coming back to is ungrounded. 


Angels of Mercy. Source.

I’ve had a small print of the above artwork over my desk for years now. While I think we all need routines and that it’s helpful to have a strong sense of who we are and what works for us, a little shakeup every now and then is a good thing, even it’s it’s something as mundane as trying a new spot for lunch or trying on a new color or style. Even when the end result is that we decide The New Thing isn’t for us.

And about that pale blush jacket…though I liked the style very much, the overall piece didn’t sing to me. It hummed for sure, but at that price I want an aria. Also one of the better runners-up (and I tried on a LOT of jackets!) was this one

Ann Taylor Jacket

from Ann Taylor. Though it was a bit darker and heavier than the look Lisa was going for with my outfit, it’s really very cute and priced moderately for a leather jacket of this quality (and keep an eye out for sales and promotional discounts). Available in Petites sizes too.

The earrings too were gorgeous, even if again not my style. But they have encouraged me to get a bit bolder with my jewelry, and find my own kind of glamour. Maybe one or two of those pieces from Beladora that Lisa wore…

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  1. rukshanaafia
    March 29, 2014 / 2:10 pm

    It would be really interesting if 2 other style bloggers did this – or if both of you could do the same thing with someone else ?

    • une femme
      March 29, 2014 / 2:21 pm

      I think it would be great if other style bloggers picked this up and ran with it!

  2. LauraH
    March 29, 2014 / 2:57 pm

    A gracious response to what might have been a difficult situation, people (I was one) urging you, with the best of intentions, in a direction you didn’t want to go. I admire that you thought about the comments and worked through what made you uncomfortable with the look and then re-affirmed your own direction.

  3. March 29, 2014 / 4:03 pm

    I think it’s great that you can say you learned from the experiment, though the look wasn’t something you prefer. I agree…we should step out of our comfort zones every now and then just to shake things up and keep life fun! That is one of the reasons I have enjoyed teaching high school…these kids always challenge me to try something new. You handled this so well!

  4. March 29, 2014 / 5:33 pm

    I agree with Pam, you both handled this challenge beautifully. i think the sheer blouse just made the photos daring even if it’s not something she would wear in reality. It pushed the pictures to an edgy feel!

    blue hue wonderland

  5. March 30, 2014 / 1:00 am

    Love the cartoon. Sometimes life give us some big wake up calls and shake ups and all we can do is ride the waves.

  6. Lisa
    March 30, 2014 / 5:24 am

    There’s confidence in knowing who you are and being in that groove. In defining style, a lot of money can be wasted on “costumes” of the moment. Thank you for saying “not me” openly, so that others will get the message to stop and think through purchases that are truly outside their comfort zone (or, gulp..pocketbooks).

  7. March 30, 2014 / 6:54 am

    Pseu, that chic “motarde” jacket is much more your style. I agree with Lisa, a lot of us (myself included) have bought “costumes” for a sort of fantasy life, and wound up making a VERY big donation to their favourite niece or charity shop.

  8. March 31, 2014 / 1:54 am

    This feeling of being “ungrounded” as you describe it – I had it in my early years. Back than I had a special boyfriend. He bought lots of Prada, Helmut Lang and Gucci stuff for me. Leather, heels, bold … (sound a bit like fetish not that I write it ;-))
    I felt exposed and not “me”. As a backlash I felt most comfortable wearing baggy jeans and undefined shilouettes for a long time in the flollowing relationship(s). When I go through old photo albums I can not believe how baggy and grungy my looks have been until my mid 30’s!
    We can look gorgeous. No doubt. But will we feel exhausted or refreshed by the end of the day?

    I enjoy reading your posting!

  9. Lady of Style
    March 31, 2014 / 5:11 am

    So interesting to see what pieces or style others select for us! I really liked your look.
    This cognac brown leather jacket is awesome, so versatile and timeless.

    Annette | Lady of Style

  10. gingerR
    April 1, 2014 / 8:07 am

    I suspect the newly married Lisa, with SH in tow for her photo shoot, was happier to put that black bra on instead of the white cami that many us of would have chosen.

  11. sybes1
    April 1, 2014 / 8:11 am

    I think it was so brave of you to try a different style. You looked fabulous even if feeling ungrounded. I love the Ann Taylor alternative for the jacket.
    We’re having unbelievable amounts of rain now (Sonoma County) but I won’t complain–just amazed!

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