I debated on whether to post a photo of my recent hair update, as the color isn’t quite where I want it to be. Yet. (Though I’m happy with the shorter cut.) But hey, sometimes things don’t go exactly as planned, and that’s a part of our style journey too.
Back when I was growing it out, we’d gone from a single process color to a slightly darker base with highlights to give it a bit more dimension and volume. This time around I wanted to warm up the base color, but the existing cooler tones were tenacious. It took two applications of color to get it warmed up just this much. This color will get lighter and softer over the next week or so, and then in a few weeks we’ll be able to brighten it up a bit more, either with highlights or going a level lighter. I’m aiming for a light golden-honey shade.
To head off the inevitable 😉question of why I don’t “ditch the dye” and just go grey, the answer is that I’m not yet grey. I have some grey at the temples, but otherwise my natural (dark ashy blonde) color is still predominant. It always felt drab to me, so I started coloring my hair in my 20’s, long before any grey hairs made an appearance. I still consider professional hair color a worthwhile investment of both time and money. YMMV.
Personal Style: DIY?
I’ve received some feedback (both here and on other social media) in response to my color and style analysis posts to the effect of:
- Most women already know what their best colors and styles are
- I couldn’t limit myself to just a few colors or styles
- You don’t need strangers to tell you what looks good, just look in the mirror
Let me first say this: if you have always had a good sense of what styles and colors work for you, that’s awesome! Brava!! 👏 I’ve always been envious of those women who seem to have an innate and strong sense of personal style.
But not all of us have that aptitude, or at least the confidence in it. I was taught from an early age to view my body shape as “wrong” and something to be hidden or camouflaged. It warped how I see myself, and my ability to judge whether something looks “good” or not. A fresh pair (or three) of (expert) eyes helped me to see beyond the often conflicting “rules for figure flattery.” And that I can wear certain cuts and details I’d always believed were “off limits” for me.
And while some may see rigidity in working from a specific color palette or style type framework, I’m finding it freeing. We all learn and process information differently. I have an analytical brain that loves to understand why something works or doesn’t. I can use that as a springboard to create and hone my personal style.
And yes, I still believe in the concept of “tools, not rules.” Use what works for you, leave what doesn’t. And keep in mind that someone else’s process may differ from your own. 😉
Dans le jardin
I set out this week to prune/deadhead my lavender bushes. They’ve really taken off in the front yard especially. Using the pruning shears above, I was able to finish two of the 10 bushes in about an hour. That was about all I could manage before my hand and wrist got sore. I don’t want to give myself carpal tunnel, so am not going to push it. So this is going to take a while. For those of you who are gardeners…how do you prune your lavender (or other sturdy bushes), and are there other more effective tools you’d recommend?