When the 2016 Express pulls out of the station at midnight, I’ll be on it but plan on leaving some baggage behind on the platform…
Comparison. There will always be someone who is further along in their journey, who may have more resources or a better set of numbers in the gene pool lottery or more talent or more discipline. The truth is we can almost never know the entirety of someone else’s joys and struggles. It’s fine to admire and be inspired, but no one else is the standard by which we should measure ourselves.
Letting others’ opinions drown out my inner voice, or sow self-doubt. I like to keep an open mind, but not at the expense of ignoring my gut. Even expert opinions can be subjective. If the thing everyone is crazy about doesn’t feel right to me, I need to trust and go with that. Likewise, I don’t need to take on someone else’s priorities for how to spend time, money, and attention as my own.
Fear Of Missing Out. It’s a big, wide world out there, and it’s impossible to seize every opportunity that rolls through. If it’s going to require contortions of my schedule, finances, or on the part of my family, then I’ll step back, let this one go by and perhaps catch the next one. Decisions and choices made from a place of fear rarely yield the best outcomes.
Trying to please everyone. Who me? Sometimes, yeah. Being authentic becomes more and more important to me as time goes on, which will undoubtedly raise an eyebrow or two along the way. I’ve never been sorry in those instances where I’ve placed my integrity over someone else’s wishes. Those who matter get over it, and those who can’t get over it won’t matter.
Regret. What’s done is done. Fix it if I can, or move on and try to do better next time.
What baggage are you hoping to leave on the platform?
Happy New Year!!
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