Let Me Say This About That…
A few questions have come up in comments or emails recently that I thought I might address more generally. So…
1. Why Don’t You Model More Of The Clothes You Show?
I’ve been asked this a few times over the years. A lot of style bloggers primarily feature their own outfit photos, and may post several new outfits (or re-combined pieces from previous outfits) each week. This is a great way for readers to see how clothes will look on bodies of varying sizes, shapes, and ages.
My outfit posts almost always consist of clothing and accessories I’ve purchased for my own wardrobe. And my wardrobe is pretty small at the moment. (Very occasionally, I’ve been gifted clothing or accessories from a brand or retailer. I’ll always disclose that as “gifted” or “c/o”.) Because I’m very short (5’1″) I need to either wear Petite sizes (which many stores no longer stock), or have regular sizes altered. Both of which limit what clothing I have access to model and photograph.
And currently, I don’t have ready access to a photographer, so most of my outfit posts are self-taken, with a tripod and a remote.
I like to be able to feature a variety of clothing for various body types, color palettes, and style preferences on the blog. So for clothing other than my own, I need to rely on retailers’ images.
2. Why Does Anyone Need To Adhere To A Style “Type” (Or Color Palette)? Can’t We Just Wear What We Like?
A) You don’t, and B) of course you can! If it’s not something you find helpful, feel free to ignore it. I agree that putting a personal spin on our style is essential, no matter how we go about it.
Everyone processes information differently. I’m analytical; I tend to categorize and make lists, and like to be able to quantify why something works or doesn’t to be able to duplicate good results. Often categories are helpful to me as a framework and starting point. Other people are more intuitive or visual learners, and approach style very differently. There’s no one right way to go about it.
3. Why Don’t You Feature More Budget Brands?
This is a complex issue I’ve wrestled with for some time. One one hand I know that many people have limited budgets and need to stretch every dollar. But I’m also concerned about the environmental and worker exploitation issues surrounding the fashion industry, and am making a concerted effort to feature more of those brands that are moving the needle in the right direction. I try to offer more budget-friendly alternatives when I can, but avoid promoting “fast fashion” or clothing that’s likely to end up in a landfill at the end of a season.
I also believe in buying the best quality you can afford, even if it means buying fewer items. If you are willing to consider pre-owned pieces, sites like TheRealReal, Eileen Fisher Renew and ThredUp (who also has lots of Eileen Fisher) offer quality pieces at substantially reduced prices.
For the first time in quite a while, I’ve made the decision to ban someone from commenting. This isn’t something I do lightly, as I want to encourage everyone to feel free to express opinions and exchange ideas. I have a pretty thick skin. 😉 But I draw the line at comments that are disparaging, ridiculing, body-shaming, or ageist. (Or that just seem to be intended to p*ss people off.) I’d been deleting 2 out of every 3 comments from this person for all of those reasons. It’s wearying and I decided I’d had enough.
It’s always been my goal to create a space that’s positive and supportive. I don’t expect everyone to like everything I share, and that’s OK. I think we can express dislike or disagreement respectfully and without getting snarky. Our culture often encourages women to police and put each other down, and I’d rather we lift each other up. That doesn’t mean being artificially “nice,” it just means remembering that there’s a person behind every post or comment, and responding as if you were across the table from them.
And A Question For You…
What topics would you like to see covered, or addressed more frequently here?