Friday Miscellany: You Asked, I Answer 🤔
But first, I just wanted to show you the detail on the leopard scarf (c/o) from my Fall travel wardrobe. Isn’t it gorgeous?
Scarf |Tee (Misses / Plus) | Pants
Let Me Say This About That…
A few questions have come up in comments or emails recently that I thought I might address more generally. So…
1. Why Don’t You Model More Of The Clothes You Show?
I’ve been asked this a few times over the years. A lot of style bloggers primarily feature their own outfit photos, and may post several new outfits (or re-combined pieces from previous outfits) each week. This is a great way for readers to see how clothes will look on bodies of varying sizes, shapes, and ages.
My outfit posts almost always consist of clothing and accessories I’ve purchased for my own wardrobe. And my wardrobe is pretty small at the moment. (Very occasionally, I’ve been gifted clothing or accessories from a brand or retailer. I’ll always disclose that as “gifted” or “c/o”.) Because I’m very short (5’1″) I need to either wear Petite sizes (which many stores no longer stock), or have regular sizes altered. Both of which limit what clothing I have access to model and photograph.
And currently, I don’t have ready access to a photographer, so most of my outfit posts are self-taken, with a tripod and a remote.
I like to be able to feature a variety of clothing for various body types, color palettes, and style preferences on the blog. So for clothing other than my own, I need to rely on retailers’ images.
2. Why Does Anyone Need To Adhere To A Style “Type” (Or Color Palette)? Can’t We Just Wear What We Like?
A) You don’t, and B) of course you can! If it’s not something you find helpful, feel free to ignore it. I agree that putting a personal spin on our style is essential, no matter how we go about it.
Everyone processes information differently. I’m analytical; I tend to categorize and make lists, and like to be able to quantify why something works or doesn’t to be able to duplicate good results. Often categories are helpful to me as a framework and starting point. Other people are more intuitive or visual learners, and approach style very differently. There’s no one right way to go about it.
3. Why Don’t You Feature More Budget Brands?
This is a complex issue I’ve wrestled with for some time. One one hand I know that many people have limited budgets and need to stretch every dollar. But I’m also concerned about the environmental and worker exploitation issues surrounding the fashion industry, and am making a concerted effort to feature more of those brands that are moving the needle in the right direction. I try to offer more budget-friendly alternatives when I can, but avoid promoting “fast fashion” or clothing that’s likely to end up in a landfill at the end of a season.
I also believe in buying the best quality you can afford, even if it means buying fewer items. If you are willing to consider pre-owned pieces, sites like TheRealReal, Eileen Fisher Renew and ThredUp (who also has lots of Eileen Fisher) offer quality pieces at substantially reduced prices.
Everlane has some reasonably priced, well-made basics, and they’re currently having a Choose What You Pay event, with discounts up to 65% off regular prices.
Setting Boundaries…
For the first time in quite a while, I’ve made the decision to ban someone from commenting. This isn’t something I do lightly, as I want to encourage everyone to feel free to express opinions and exchange ideas. I have a pretty thick skin. 😉 But I draw the line at comments that are disparaging, ridiculing, body-shaming, or ageist. (Or that just seem to be intended to p*ss people off.) I’d been deleting 2 out of every 3 comments from this person for all of those reasons. It’s wearying and I decided I’d had enough.
It’s always been my goal to create a space that’s positive and supportive. I don’t expect everyone to like everything I share, and that’s OK. I think we can express dislike or disagreement respectfully and without getting snarky. Our culture often encourages women to police and put each other down, and I’d rather we lift each other up. That doesn’t mean being artificially “nice,” it just means remembering that there’s a person behind every post or comment, and responding as if you were across the table from them.
And A Question For You…
What topics would you like to see covered, or addressed more frequently here?
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Poshmark also has some great pre-owned pieces – loads of Eileen Fisher!!
I’ve gotten ~5 pieces from Poshmark this season after my daughter turned me on to it. She is a Poshmark reseller and is using it as a second income to save up to buy her first house.
There was a recent article about The Realreal and how resellers like Poshmark eliminate a lot of the environmental impacts of fashion. https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/10/21/therealreals-online-luxury-consignment-shop
I also think it is a great idea to search for a local consignment shop. I go to one locally and it is a great place to buy and sell clothing to/from women in your community, you can try things on before you buy and you don’t have the extra packaging and environmental impact of shipping items. You are also supporting a local business usually owned and operated by a woman.
Hi Susan,
I’m a regular reader and link clicker, although I don’t comment.
I’m here for the FASHION and you deliver!
Your blog has been a great help to me and my closet.
Thanks,
Catarina
Your journey with color/style analysis led me to pursue my own color analysis, and I was surprised to learn a few things in the process. As to fast fashion vs pricier brands, I too am trying to buy more sustainable fashion. I need clothes to do physical work in though, so many of the brands you feature don’t work for that. I have found that Athleta has well-made and long lasting clothes and they are a B Corp. Also I am able to find brands like Patagonia at my local REI, or online there. Just thought I would mention these in case any of your readers need tougher wearing clothing lines also. I always enjoy your blog posts. My current need is some really nice tailored pjs that will hold up more than one season.
I also work outside and need farm clothes. Have you checked out sierraoutfitters.com? Great stuff, great service!!
woops- meant to type sierratradingpost.com ! sorry!
meant to type sierratradingpost.com ! sorry!
Thank you for letting me know about Eileen Fisher Renew. Just checked out the site and ordered a scarf! I always enjoy your content. At 63 years old (ack!) I’m always looking to keep my classic, simple style. Your suggestions are appreciated!
I love the detail of the scarf and the colors you are wearing! I love to travel and really enjoy hearing about your trips and the detail of the packing for the trip.
Some folks thrive on conflict and complaining. I’m glad you are banning your negative ninnies too. Stay beautiful, my friend! I love watching your new journey of style.
Bravo you! The trolls who think they are entitled to their negative, ignorant comments should be shown the door by a few more people.
I really enjoy your blog because of your analytical process and ability to roll with the punches.
Your 12 piece wardrobe posts have been the most instructive tools for me. Currently packing for a cold weather trip and your travel wardrobe posts are so helpful.
I am happy to hear from you on any topic that inspires you. Enjoy your upcoming wine trip.
Bravo,,,love your site and styles !
The scarf is particular fabulous. Enjoy your trip to Napa. I have serious envy. It’s such a beautiful area. M
Speaking of sustainable fashion, perhaps you would like to do a post on the retailers who ask you to bring your gently used clothing that you are done wearing to their store to “trade in” for a small credit. I am thinking of H&M and Eileen Fisher to name two stores at opposite ends of the budget spectrum. I especially love what Eileen Fisher is doing as I am a huge fan of her clothes. I am so thankful to be able to live in New York City where the clothing options are dizzying.
Inspired by your Red Leopard visit, I decided it was time to up my game and had a virtual color and Essence analysis by John Kitchener. I have been pouring over my fabric swatch book and found the whole process easy and intriguing. No more black, white, grey, navy or red for me! Love your inspirational posts and travel capsules.
A post on PJ’s is a wonderful idea! I have followed you for several years, you are a lovely person and I enjoy your blog. You can tell you put a lot into it. As my mother use to say “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say it.”
Thank you for all your helpful tips ! I’m also short (4’10) and finding petite sized clothing is becoming a challenge. I look forward to your posts to see how you manage that issue.
Thank you also for banning negative comments . I’m tired of hearing women shaming or mocking other women. Not everyone is 19 years old, tall and a size 2.
I enjoy reading about your travels and checking out your packing lists. I’m getting much better at not overpacking!! Thanks for that, too!
The outfit is beautiful and the colour on you is spectacular!
I often buy shoes on your recommendation and have loved every pair. I’d like to see a post on how to decide what purse to carry. I tend to pick a purse for the month and carry it regardless of what I’m wearing but I’d like to feel more comfortable with knowing what to pick to go with a certain outfit. Love your blog and the respect you have for yourself and others.
New to your blog and really enjoy your ideas about petite sizing. , also your color and style analysis and how you use it. I’m a 78 Nonnie, and like softer flowy silhouettes but you’re petite style is inspiring. As a retired consultant both color and wardrobe help, the investment in yourself to tweak your personal style, seek new inspiration and to build on your self confidence is so life changing.
Negativity from any source is so unkind. And kindness cures!
Have loved your blog for years! Keep on, keepin’ on and block the “noise” when you must!! No need for negativity on your beautiful blog! Thanks, for everything you suss out and share- I learn so much!
I love your site!
Could you share with us what you would wear for a more formal occasion, such as an evening wedding?
Thanks!
Thinking that the negative comments stem from a very unhappy place. Unfortunately a lot of those folks use a platform on a blog ( and that anonymity) to express their envy. Very sad. There is a way of stating one’s need to ‘agree to disagree’ without being mean or offensive.
It’s interesting that it’s the ‘women of a certain age’ who are leading the vanguard of moving toward more sustainable fashion, recycling and consignment/thrifting! There’s really great stuff out there at a fraction of the original retail. Maybe that’s a subject Susan would consider in future posts.
Have a wonderful visit to Napa, I have many favourite memories of that lovely destination!
Beautiful scarf, colors are perfect for you! As for banning a negative commenter, good for you. I always like seeing your posts, and I do like some more than others. I only comment when I have something positive to say. Thank you for all you do to share your ideas with all of us. I know you must spend an enormous amount of time on your blog.
I am interested in knowing if you kept those AG mahogany red pants you posted about early in the summer, and if so, how you are wearing them. I bought them and liked wearing them a lot this summer, probably time to put them away soon here in MN!
Enjoy your day.
Well said. You asked what topics but I may be at the wrong place to ask these. Where do I find more info about a clothing piece I might purchase? I find it hard to find made in america and to determine if not made in china. How do I know if what I am buying is made in an under paid child mill? What fabrics are least damaging to the environment, and why? I hear alot tgat I should be more aware of my clothing, cosmetics and more but I find it hard to find these answers and style together. What do you suggest I look for?
Kathy, there are many such sites but this is one of the best known: https://cleanclothes.org/ Unfortunately country of origin is not a guarantee as I had the disagreeable experience of coming across TWO sweatshops in my neighbourhood: one was African men, the other Asian women. The Asian women one was behind a laundromat, and “made in Canada” tags were prominent on large paper labels. I was simply canvassing for Elections Canada. The African men one was up a rickety flight of stairs, in front of the famous Jean-Talon market. There is certainly at least as much of that in the US. Conversely, there are fairtrade clothes made in Southeast Asian countries etc where the workers have decent working conditions and living wages (but yes, living wages there remain lower than in the US, Canada or western Europe).
In the rubble of Rana Plaza, there were fast fashion brands such as H&M and the Canadian Joe Fresh, but also far more upscale brands.
This is very depressing and difficult to research but the upside is that more and more consumers are concerned with these appalling working conditions as well as the huge environmental waste. I’m sure other posters here have ideas!
Thank you for this information. I am also interested in learning more about making ethical shopping choices.
Thank you for the website, Lagatta! I look forward to checking it out.
I thoroughly enjoy your analyses! It helps develop a guidelines/formulas (not rules. What movie was that concept from?!) for what works for you thereby making shopping and packing easier.
Personally, I don’t understand why a commenter, if they find your blog content so distasteful to them, doesn’t just unsubscribe and find a better option for themselves! There is having another point of view and then there is just being snarky!
I thoroughly enjoy your analyses! It helps develop guidelines/formulas (not rules. What movie was that concept from?!) for what works for you thereby making shopping and packing easier.
Personally, I don’t understand why a commenter, if they find your blog content so distasteful to them, doesn’t just unsubscribe and find a better option for themselves! There is having another point of view and then there is just being snarky!
I always look forward to your posts and appreciate the time and energy you put into each one. Your style suggestions are creative and well thought out. Keep doing what your are doing! I am wanting to head in the direction of fewer quality clothing pieces and hope to do so. My wardrobe is so full, but yet I wear so little of it.
Life is too short to allow ANYONE to post any negative comments on your blog! Bravo!
Do you have any referrals of qualified color analysts in the bay area?
Regards
Susan you’re doing a fabulous job! I’ve always loved your site—you mix things up and make us think! You’ve educated me about style and clothes and packing for travel. I’m very grateful for all your wisdom. The scarf is lovely and I love the combination of ivory denim and cinnamon that you posted yesterday.
I was trying to think of a clever way to say that you are the only fashion blogger I follow and while don’t know you in person, I feel I do and I just adore you! You have given me such freedom with choosing clothes. Now….photos…my favorites the the ones you take yourself rather than the “professional” pics. Napa…I live in Sacramento and go there often as we have family there. Great place and I am sure you know Don Giovanni’s but if you haven’t had the special cosmo you really should!
I have that scarf by the way and it is fabulous. Thanks for getting me back to my seasonal colors and for taking your time to be a smart, kind and interesting author!
I adore that scarf, but ironically, my wee black cat would surely jump on it and make nasty pulls in the fabric…
Wow – this photo is stunning! Your colors and style are beautifully showcased, and you look so happy and at ease. Have a wonderful trip, and I hope you’ll do a wardrobe recap afterward.
Congrats on setting boundaries! To anyone who is so negative toward you and your blog… I have a word of advice… read something else… like a comic book so you can lighten up!!!!
I actually like your higher end picks. Some pieces like handbags and scarves are a worthwhile timeless investment. Your tips can be modified to any dollar budget. It’s putting together pieces to create your own personal style, and that can be done at any price point. When I was raising my family I always told the kiddos… you don’t wear the price tag on the outside. Same principal applies here.
I have recently lost almost 30 pounds and am trying to rebuild my wardrobe. Your blog has helped me immensely! Am trying not to buy black!! What pants are you wearing in the picture?
Hi Darlene, thanks and here’s the link to the pants: https://shopstyle.it/l/9fID
Can you please check this link…it says “bad merchant” when I click on it!
Hi Jan, that’s weird, but try this one: https://shopstyle.it/l/9fID
I got so carried away I neglected to share a great find. During my swing through New England this past week I went to LL Bean. I was delightfully surprised to try on their flannel lined 1912 jeans. Not only are they cute but they fit like a glove just the right amount of relaxed and the lining is adorable. Not bulky. Can be hemmed in order to only turn the cuff once. Check it out!
Thank you….for your candor and taking the higher ground.
Tomorrow I leave for Italy, and hope I’ve good notes on wardrobe selection! Ciao, Bella!
Buon viaggio e tanti auguri!
Thank you for taking a stand and not accepting comments filled with vitriol. They reveal more about the person who sends them than about you. I believe this person Is living a miserable life and wants you to experience pain comparable to how they feel. This is the downside of social media. Setting boundaries is a wise choice.
I enjoy your blog, very much. I learn something useful each time I read it…even though I’m a Summer in colour matching. Ha,ha.
Thank you!
Kudos to you! I love your blog and it has helped me make my wardrobe more focused on colors and styles I love to wear! Keep doing it your way please! Block the negativity no one needs that! Thanks for all your work!
I read every one of your posts but rarely comment. I enjoy your blog immensely, and you always come across as a truly nice & kind person. It irritates me that someone would be mean to you. You are right to block them. Your travel posts are some of my favorites (especially when you go to Paris), and I work in education with students with special challenges so reading about how your son is doing from time to time means a lot to me as well. Keep doing what you’re doing & enjoy your trip!
I have found several fashion blogs that don’t “speak to me”, so I just unsubscribe. As a reader I don’t like reading negative comments as I find them disturbing and unnecessary. I can’t imagine how it feels for you Susan, to get negative feedback. It’s like a slap in the face. Good for you for banning that woman!
Having said that, yesterday I brought several items of (mostly black) clothing to consignment! It felt SO GOOD to get them out of my closet. I still have a few blacks but intend to get rid of them when I replace them with an item in one of my colors. I had my colors done two years ago but couldn’t give up my black until now. Thanks, Susan!
Susan, love your blog! Yours is one that I follow regularly. I enjoy reading about your travels and have found your color journey and packing advice to be so helpful. My husband and I are taking a short trip soon and have decided to pack lighter and take only
a weekender bag each for the trip. We’ll see how well we do with composing our wardrobe capsule for fluctuating fall temps!
Have a great time in wine country, I’ll be looking forward to your trip notes!
Looking at your style through another lens is a wonderful idea. Whether you are able to do “the whole shebang” at one time like your experience, or take a step at a time to do it on your own as you evaluate your wardrobe, it is a good thing to take a step to improve and simplify styling yourself.
The downside of any social media platform are the negative ones who sadly may spend a lifetime living in a pool of negativity and criticism.
So – be you. We love you and may like or not like some choices. No one’s perfect. You GO girl!
Holy Smoke! I didn’t realize there was a website to buy renewed Eileen Fisher clothing. but I do now. Thanks for all your sharing of your life, fashion and travel. While I may not be able to buy the items you do it certainly reflects my financial situation not yours. Thanks again for an inspiring blog!
Sustainability is up to us, too. Those outfits we buy for one special occasion and never wear again? Now I’m going to rent. Another strategy: when you’re about to buy something, ask yourself if you expect to wear it 30 times. That’s a good test for personal sustainability. Donate things that no longer fit your figure or your lifestyle to your local charity shop, such as one run by the local hospital auxiliary. If it’s Patagonia, Royal Robbins or Eileen Fisher, you also have the option of returning an article to the manufacturer.
I have ordered 3 items from Eileen Fisher Renew based on your mentioning the site…and am thrilled. I have found 2 perfect pieces I could not locate at regular Eileen Fisher stores and one item from my daydream list…at amazing prices. i feel like a kid in a candy store…and a bit smug because prices are so reasonable for such quality clothing. Plus the online shopping process is fun…constantly new options to check out. One added factor…I grew up in a world of hand-me-downs which gave us access to many elegant items we could not have owned otherwise and had the added advantage of being a form of recycling.
I did too. My immediate family was parents with a pigeon pair, but I had cousins from families of 14 and 12 – who lived in smaller towns, where the hold of the (Catholic) Church was much stronger. Not that they were unhappy, on the contrary. Hand-me-downs were definitely recycling; they got a bad rep as supposedly the younger children were stuck with worn-out clothing; however this overlooks extended families.
I enjoy your blog because I can see how a REAL person looks in clothes. If I was a size 2, I would be fine selecting clothing from a picture of just an item and sometimes I do. But alas, I’m over 50, not a size 2 and only 5’. And this is exactly why I enjoy your blog with photos of you—they are for real people who are not model size. I also appreciate knowing the items and size you purchase. When you mention the size you are wearing and I purchase the item, I rarely have to exchange the item for a different size. This has been helpful to me in this day and age of shopping online and often going through the hassle of sending an item back.
Your blog has helped me open up my imagination to new colors and styles. And with your help, I now look at my current wardrobe with fresh eyes. Now to my comment…could you do a blog post on body types and what type of clothing works? I’m a plus size pear shape and want to make sure I highlight my assets. Also, could you do a post on how alterations/tailoring can make an outfit look exceptional.
Those colors look so good on you! Wow!
Thanks to your blog I purchased one of the Pearl bags from Lo&Sons during the sale. I am so happy with it, the quality is really good and it was nice to get a discount.
Good job on deleting the negative commenter. Sheesh, what is wrong with people?
I love your packing tips! I’m planning an 18 day cruise to Europe and stressing about packing. I will be visiting your blog to review your tips as I pack.
I agree with you on the higher quality clothing. However, I can also look at your suggestions and get ideas. If I don’t want to invest that much, I can look for alternatives.
Thank you fo the inspiration!
Negativity is bad for sure. Different viewpoints in contrast should be encouraged or what’s the point of a fashion blog after all? I think your style is classic and you embrace trends. When I first followed you you had the worlds best collection of moto jackets and there were colors, they went away and you had the worlds best collection of neutrals and long over lean dusters, now colors are having a moment. It all makes for good blog content but in NO WAY is it sustainable fashion. I say this to be real and unfortunately it’s not something that can be said a lot nicer. Most of us are guilty of the same to varying degrees . I aspire to be a good steward of sustainability and the environment but I’m not. My tastes change, I buy on line requiring shipping, I try to be more aware and careful but it’s not nearly enough to make up for my impact. My husband shops at good will once or twice a year, always looks great, and is a true example and style icon.
I’d love to see you address some of our ‘flaws’ that can be camoflaged. For example, I have a pronounced tummy and am short waisted, and would love to ‘hide’ both. A good friend has very large bosom she would prefer to make less noticiable. Some women have larger (than they might like) butts. So, I’d love to see multiple columns on disguising self-proclaimed figure flaws.
My closet is full of color, but my travel wardrobe has been black-and-white. You have inspired me to inject some color. I swapped my black quarter-zip for a royal blue cashmere pullover, and I stopped myself from ordering a black puffer — I’m sticking with my dark wine-color one instead.
And you have inspired my footwear. After countless tries, I gave up on finding low boots like the ones you wear so often. (Am I the only one who dislikes feeling them around my ankles?) But I did find a comfortable pair of “shooties” that have a similar look — and I feel ridiculously stylish!
You do you! I love your thoughtful, intelligent, considered posts. While I may not want to spend the cash on luxury brands, I am always inspired by your choices to find something similar in a price range In which I am comfortable spending. And thanks so much for addressing ageism- happy to see someone taking a stand! Cheers!
That scarf is spectacular and to me seems like a wonderful presentation of the style journey you are on.
Glad you’ve banished Ms. Annoying Commenter. You don’t do all the work of publishing this blog to give someone else a platform to indulge their vanity in judgmental or self-aggrandizing statements.
And as for photos, I have always loved the sidewalk selfies, the ones you take with the light just right and the clicker in your hand. The clothes are well-featured and I get to see your friendly wonderful face.
As for posts, I’d second an occasion post, but, with an outfit from Rent the Runway? Selfishly, I’d say what about a post on athletic/workout/Pilates/yoga gear;). And I enthusiastically second more posts on handbags – great brands, choosing them, even learning about construction etc.
Good for you for deleting the nasty commenter! I appreciate all the hard work that you put into your blog and the great recommendations that you share. I, too, get very frustrated by the lack of petite options in stores. I swear that the petite shops in department stores shrink a little each time I visit. (I’m looking at you, Macy’s!) I have narrow shoulders, a short waist, and short arms, so I really do need petite-sized tops. And another frustrating thing while I’m at it—the high crew necks on sweaters and tees. I much prefer scoop or v-necks!
How many ways can I say ditto, ditto, ditto! Thank you for expressing the trials of being short!
I so agree with all the comments made in response to your latest post. I love your site, look forward to reading it and accept that not everything you feature will be to my taste or within my price range. Your travel pieces are especially fun to read as my husband and I love to travel and aim for two big trips a year (usually to Europe).
I too vote enthusiastically for Eileen Fisher Renew! With great prices, free shipping & returns it’s hard to go wrong- I just ordered a 2nd stretch crepe jacket yesterday, a duplicate of one I wore throughout our just-ended 4 weeks in Europe. I’m trying hard to reduce my wardrobe to just those pieces I love & feel great in, and your efforts in that regard are inspirational! As someone else said, keep on being you!
I’ll leave it at ‘Ditto to everyone who said hooray for holding boundaries.’ I thoroughly enjoy your posts; especially the fact that I don’t feel like I’m constantly being bombarded with ‘buy this though my link and I may get a small commission’. I understand the need to monetize blogs, but your approach hits just the right note for me – along with the fact that if you were gifted something by a brand you come right out and say it, so we need never wonder if your opinion is being ‘bought’. I’ve lately been looking at my color/style choices; recognizing that things that might have worked for my younger self no longer do – and rather than bemoaning that and wasting energy wishing I were younger/taller/thinner, figuring out what DOES look/feel good! You’ve inspired me to donate pieces that are in great shape and excellent quality – but do nothing for me – and to figure out how to best put together things that sing with my coloring and build. Plus – I get a bit of a vicarious thrill from your travel posts; I’ve been to Paris many times, but not since these pesky children. 🙂 It’s great to see someone on those beautiful streets who doesn’t fit the stereotype of an ugly American dressed in loud, inappropriate clothing, asking where the nearest McDonalds can be found. (I realize that makes me sound like a judgemental stick-in-the-mud; I don’t mean it that way. I always loathed the cringeworthy part of recognizing Americans in Europe from a mile away – and not for the best reasons!) Keep doing what you’re doing; from this feedback, it’s clear that you’ve hit a sweet spot of Authenticity, Openness, Respect and Curiosity.
Wonderful that you’ve found what it takes to delete negative and disparaging comments! There’s way too much negativity out there especially women bashing women, we need to step up and support one another. I thank you for your actions!
Thank you for what you do. I have learned so much in the couple of years I have followed your blog. My favorite posts are when you let us see how you are processing a style, color or season. I appreciate that you don’t have a huge wardrobe. I am trying to have a smaller wardrobe myself. Maybe more pics of how you use the things you do have in different ways. I have started doing much more consignment/thrift shopping for financial and also environmental reasons. I do find some gems but it is time consuming. Just keep sharing your journey with us.
I’m inspired by your comments about setting boundaries. We can’t change other people, or their intents and reactions to us, but we can gracefully and diplomatically draw that proverbial line in the sand that says, “ enough!” and move on with dignity. I have definitely upped my fashion game in the years that I’ve followed your blog! Thank you for all that you do and, please, keep doing it!
Oh, and – love that scarf! So many great patterns (yes, I looked) and the value for the material seems terrific.
Love this current combination, so stylish!
I like your travel wardrobe posts because you share your thinking behind them, not just your packing list (“start with shoes” is great advice). And your color analysis coverage was insightful as well as I’ve long known that black is not my best color, though hard to avoid, and this color story made it clear why and what to do instead. I’m not interested in fast fashion either; I want better quality even if it means fewer pieces. I think we are about the same age and I just retired so am finding my needs changing, with more call for casual clothes but lots of office wear in my closet.
I especially like your travel selections, I have bought a few recommendations, and was very happy with them ( silk tees, and packable puffers). Any information on flat but cushioned walking shoes is welcomed, I prefer non heeled boots. I would love a capsule travel wardrobe for a “summer “ season, or where I could find information on that subject. Also, a question, why do French brands fit me better than American brands, what is the difference? Thanks for taking us on your Red Leopard journey, it’s fascinating.
great post and lots of good comments re boundaries (even blogs need boundaries!)
Really interesting question in one of the comments: about how to determine where an item was made
if you buy it on a website–if anyone has any knowledge regarding this question, it would be helpful!
Love your blog and have changed much about my wardrobe, especially for traveling, because of reading it regularly.
(but will continue to wear black pants occasionally or even daily!)–
thanks!
Thank you for this post, Susan, and the link to that magnificent scarf! For what it’s worth, yours is the ONLY fashion blog I subscribe to anymore or read regularly. Keep doing what you’re doing, PLEASE. I’m one of those people who needs to look for more affordable options, but I appreciate knowing what the better brands are because you can often find a great piece off season, etc. I did want to comment on my experience with Eileen Fisher Renew. I was so excited to try a few pieces because her stuff is really beyond my budget for the most part, but I always want all the items you share here on the blog. I took a shot and ordered a washable wool black tank and skirt. The skirt arrived with NO ELASTIC in the waist. SO DISAPPOINTING. They were very responsive and made the return very easy, but I have to say, it soured me on buying previously-worn garments, unless it’s a special item that clearly was only worn once or twice. I wish others better luck in that regard!
I find your blog inspirational and I look forward to it every morning with my cup of coffee. I am sorry that you have had to deal with negativity – my goodness, this is a fashion blog and not determining the fate of the world! Fashion should be about fun and creativity and make us feel good about ourselves…which you do SO well. Keep up the good work!
I love your blog and have used many of your travel and wardrobe tips! I love the people
who add great additional insights. Blocking the trolls or those hateful comments needs
to be done more. Its your journey they can unfollow and go elsewhere! Keep up your
insights and style tips. I have a black, white, and grey wardrobe .No color ,but have stepped out
some because of some of your recommendations! I also support the emphasis of
sustainability! I too love Eileen Fisher, H&M on occasion and Athleta! I can do more
with less buying now! Thanks again
Thank you for being you- honest, insightful and smart. I appreciate the fact that you hv boundaries and are willing to enforce them. So many blogs, FB pages, etc. get muddled in negativity. I do hv a question: how do you travel to France so often? I really like those posts,
I love your blog exactly as it is! I was actually just thinking yesterday about two of my travel faves, Aquatalia booties and the Uniqlo down, which I learned about from you.
I too am moving more towards sustainable fashion. Do you buy on EBay? I will search there for gently used high ticket items before buying new.
Enjoy the wine country! I am in Northern California and the weather is perfect right now.
Re things I’d like to see more of – sometimes I buy a piece you feature, and then need ideas on how to style it. For example, I got the blanknyc faux suede moto jacket you showed, and I love it, but haven’t worn it as much as I would like because I need those ideas
I really enjoy your blog and the fact that you are not constantly modeling the brand that is currently being pushed by most of the bloggers out there. Right now it seems to be Walmart… I have just given up on most of them. We all have budgets but we come to your blog looking for YOUR take. I can never figure out why someone needs to be ugly. This is your blog, not theirs!
Good one!! We do read this blog for YOUR TAKE, SUSAN!!! Well said Ellen who commented!
That is a lovely scarf. I agree with all the others regarding your banning the the nasty commenter. Life is too short for that!
If you are still taking questions or possible posting ideas – how about one that reflects your “staying at home today” wardrobe, those days when you might just be reading, some tidying up, making lunch, cleaning out your closet. I have a feeling you probably look pretty great and put together on those days too 🙂
Thank you, Suz from Vancouver
Suz, that brings to mind a practical question – not just tidying up, but cleaning with tools or supplies that could damage “good” clothing. So I keep some worn-out or stained clothing, (apart from “wearable” garments, in a transparent box). Think I’m keeping too much of that. I don’t mean that I work in pyjamas or anything like that – never do, always at least in jeans, a top and undergarments.
The scarf is beautiful, but I’m personally hesitant to wear anything feline-themed as I’m already far too much of a mad catlady!
YOU INDEED have created a positive encouraging space that we femmes of a certain age enjoy! Thanks for sharing your beauty, your travel, your kindness, fashion and advice.
RE PRICE POINT: Being a plus size I too enjoy wearing a lot of Eileen Fisher. It is absolutely at the top of my $$$ budget however. I’d also like to point out to those who are going so spend less on their wardrobe one can ‘mimic’ the Eileen stuff in lower end brands. I know that Steinmart and even WalMart have things that may not last as long but will hang on for a couple of years and look handsome and pulled together. Target has some nice things too. Also I think grooming, hair and skincare, are HUGE when it comes to looking attractive and ‘finished’. Thanks for this delightful and informative blog! I LOVE FRANCE TOO!!!
I appreciate your approach to the brands you feature. Maybe I can’t afford the 600 dollar bag, but I can be inspired to get “the look” at my budget price point. As to fast fashion, an excellent book is “Overdressed: The Shockingly High Cost of Cheap Fashion” that really shows how we’ve moved from fewer sustainable pieces to what we think are bargains but aren’t due to exploitation, shoddy practices, etc.
And I’ve discovered some great new sites!
I want to chime in as well on that stunning scarf and Eileen Fisher Renew, which is becoming my favorite site for shopping! Thanks for your thoughtful posts, Susan.
Comments, like wardrobes, can often benefit from being curated. That’s all I’ll say about that. 🙂
Re: future topics — Your travel wardrobes and trip updates are always some of my favorites. It would also be nice, as the holidays approach to see some festive but casual outfits or pieces that work with what you already have. I struggle with this. I have “work wear” and “travel wear” mostly figured out (well, as much as anyone ever does!). But when the holidays come around I yield to the temptation of buying special pieces just for a one-off event that are too dressy or otherwise outside my normal wardrobe. As a result, I often don’t feel comfortable or like myself when I’m wearing them, and thus I tend to wear them only a few times before donating them.
Cinzia, I usually scrupulously avoid anything “festive”. I’d rather have a lovely pullover in one of my favourite colours or a plain but elegant dress or midi/maxi skirt.
Thank you for continuing to blog daily. I am very sorry that you have had inappropriate mail and hope this person chooses to move on. I must admit, I looking forward to your blog and take elements to incorporate into items I already have or wish to purchase. Please continue to share all your fun and functional wardrobe items.
Happy Fall!
Hi Susan and all. I too have noticed the diminishing number of offerings in petites sizes (I’m the same height as you). It is distressing, as the cost of buying all clothing in regular sizes and having everything tailored would be prohibitive. And even when petites *are* offered, the selection is minimal. I would love to see a series from you addressing the challenges for petites! Not a how-to, as I think most of us who are short know what works on a small frame and what doesn’t. What I would love to hear are your (specific) ideas on brand recommendations, style options and hacks, shopping solutions–essentially, your personal story/stips/evolution as a fellow mini. Coming from you, this would be a dream!
Oops, typo. “Tips,” not “stips.” 🙂
Those coppery browns are divine on you. My faves too!
BTW, Susan, I tried on a teddy coat in that coppery color that’s part of your new look. I didn’t think it would work, since my coppery hair has turned silver. Well, it did! Now I have more motivation to push those color boundaries as part of my personal style challenge. Sure, its a trend, but I am one of those people who will keep on wearing it because I love it.
Love your blog. I find you’re a valuable resource for all things travel. I’m always over here re reading old posts for your excellent ideas. I appreciate that the whole blog is not an ad. I think you have a great balance in what you write about. I do enjoy your makeup posts also. Just keep doing what you’ve been doing.
Hello Susan! What I think I enjoy most about your blog is that you don’t just say “Isn’t this a fabulous piece?” But explain WHY you think it is – it’s advantages and in some cases, its disadvantages. As to the price point on some of the items you feature – while some of it is beyond my price point, I don’t see that as an issue because… my first point! It isn’t so much about the exact garment but about the utility of that kind of garment and hat to me is what makes your blog so valuable (ok, that and other things as well :-)).
As for not nice commenters, sadly I think in the age of the internet it goes with the territory – and I think Cinzia stated it brilliantly!
Finally, I love the new colors in your wardrobe – they absolutely suit you – cannot wait to see what other treasures and additions you come up with!
Ditto Nancy’s comment about the value many of us find in your saying *why* you think/feel as you do about a style, a piece of clothing, or a topic.
I also enjoy and regularly read your blog for the reasons others find your blog meaningful.
I’ve said it before … you’re a pro. Respect!
Ann in Missouri
I visited my favorite consignment store today. They have an Eileen Fisher section now so this is on my to-do list when I have time. Yay!
You are the first blog I follow every day – full of ideas – nonjudgemental and always positive. While I am still a black and white wearer – mixing in some color – I’m always grateful for your ideas. Thank you for all of your research and kind suggestions – at 80 I need them all.
I am a fan. Love what you are doing, the way you are doing it and it’s great to know a bit about what you stand for and where you are coming from in your fashion journey. I’d love to see this as an “about me” or FAQ page, with maybe some shares to other blogs that inspire you. People are sometimes ridiculous with their expectations and feel a little too entitled to create drama online. Good for you for creating and defending this very amazing, positive, welcoming space!
The idea of sustainability and wearing everything in the wardrobe is something I’m embracing as fast as I can. That includes all the travel clothes I’m starting to build for our upcoming varied tours. Whilst trying to holiday in only spring and autumn there are some places that never cool down. Egypt is one and I’m finding hot weather travel wardrobes a bit of a mission given I don’t subscribe to one wear opportunity anymore.
I love your blog, keep up the good work! I love the scarf, but I have don’t have the style to wear one.
Can you please check this link…it says “bad merchant” when I click on it!
The scarf is fabulous! Like so many others have stated I look forward to reading your blog. Whenever possible it’s the first thing I read in the morning! I have learned so much from you. You provide a little more then just fashion sense. You write about looking your best no matter your age or circumstances. So many of us do not want to ever stop trying to look our personal best. You have made us aware of environmental issues in the clothing industry and also furthered my knowledge of makeup products that are not tested on animals. Thank you for this wonderful blog!
Susan, I thoroughly enjoy your blog and have been reading it for many years. I echo the sentiment of others that there is no room for continuing negative comments.
I’m especially loving your new wardrobe items that follow the guidelines of Red Leopard. You look sensational in them. I do realize that you cannot redo your wardrobe all at once as the items are not that easy to find. I also understand your desire to wear old favorites in the long over lean profile. All are great.
I love your blogs and although I’m afraid of many colors and prints, your blogs have encouraged me to experiment with some small prints and colors that I love but was always afraid to wear.
I am a petite as well, narrow shoulders and busty. I find that classic simple lines look best on me.
Thank you again for all that you do for us.
Egypt is dry, though. Many people find that kind of heat easier to tolerate than extreme heat and humidity, as in Central Africa. A friend of Egyptian origin here expounded on the reactions of people there, as she was obviously of that descent but also “western” in style and dress, though she was careful to respect local sensibilities.
Betty, that is my case as well. I also like rather plain clothes. But there are colours that don’t make us look like great flashing boobs. Not the same for everyone.
I am surprised you are 5’1″. The way you dress makes you look like you are 5’10”. I love your style and your blog
I love the way you allow and embrace change into your life and it shows through your fashion choices, makeup changes, hairstyle and color changes. Agree with Lisa and Sandra. Also – LOVE the scarf.
I also think it is a great idea to search for a local consignment shop. I go to one locally and it is a great place to buy and sell clothing to/from women in your community, you can try things on before you buy and you don’t have the extra packaging and environmental impact of shipping items. You are also supporting a local business usually owned and operated by a woman.
Sadly we all are faced with decision of banning a reader. You made the right decision and I adore your scarf!!
Susan, thank you for this post. I too have wondered why pretty much everything you feature is expensive but I figured that a blog like yours is somewhat aspirational so it’s good to see the better, most stylish clothes. Also you have pointed out sales on a regular basis which is very helpful. I would like to see more pants that are not jeans and warm weather clothes (I live in Florida ). Also, special occasion clothes would make nice seasonal posts. I only recall one post like that. At the moment, I’m already thinking ahead to holiday dressing – which I will be packing. Don’t let the haters get you down! You’re doing such a good job with this blog.
Hello! Thank you for another great post. Your words, your style, and your “good neighbor” approach to life are refreshing. As a 50-something embarking soon on a new career (which will require more business attire than I’ve needed at my last 15+ year position), I’m looking at your posts in a whole new light. I used to scan them for travel ideas; now I’m checking possible work attire. One post I’d love to see (and if you’ve addressed it in the past, and I’ve missed it as a new-ish reader, I’d love a link to the post) … your closet organization. Also, I’d appreciate your thoughts on how to pare down a closet. Thank you!
Thanks for the time and effort you put into your blog. I previously read celebrity and high fashion focused blogs before you came on the scene. Now I read yours and “That’s Not My Age” because they reflect more diverse and down to earth lives. Don’t know what’s going on with the negative commentators; appreciate your not giving them a platform and sparing us from reading them. I live in Sonoma, CA and need to remember that folks from all over love to visit here, and not take it for granted. Yup, we have fires and earthquakes, but it sure is nice the rest of the time. Have a lovely vacation and post photos of your trip and outfits if you get a chance.
The leopard scarf with those leopard frames are a winning combination! Such a cute look on you. Always love your blog.
Topics I would be interested in seeing more of would include any tips for choosing eyeglass frames, any new favorite recipes (food or drink), skin care and more travel pictures of the cool places you visit.
Have fun in wine country!
Nice post in which you explain your choices very well. As I can still comment (and I am known for my Dutch directness) the person you blocked must have been really bad ). I would have done the same.
The scarf is beautiful.
Greetje
Nice post in which you explain your choices very well. As I can still comment (and I am known for my Dutch directness) the person you blocked must have been really bad ). I would have done the same.
The scarf is beautiful.
Greetje
I have been following your blog for a few years and appreciate your research and comments. I love your style. Being short (5’2”) and a women of a certain age (74) I refuse to look dowdy and embrace style. Your blog is inspirational and informative. I had my colors done in the 80’s and was surprised that I liked was mostly there already. It has made choosing clothes easier.
I like the less is more approach and going for quality not quantity with sustainability. I love that my daughter and her kids go to the local thrift shops often to buy clothes and then donate them back when they don’t wear them. We often go together. We don’t have many clothing stores here so this gives us a lot more of choices besides online.
For those who work outside try Red Ants Pants from Montana. It’s founded by females in a small farming town and they give back to the community.
I would love to have an article on laundering/cleaning clothing. Can you add nightgowns to the pj request?
Ditto on the negative person.
Allie on Wardrobe Oxygen went into why she doesn’t feature many budget brands and I thought she made some goodpoints in saying that budget brands/great sale buys were hard to feature on her site because they often weren’t available in a the size range she likes to feature for her readership – plus and regular sizes- or, if they’re sale items they didn’t have the quanitity to support her readers and people complained they weren’t available. My guess is that you have more truely petite readers, as opposed to plus-size petite readers and that may well complicate your choices more.
I know that’s pretty bloggy-business, but I thought that was a reasonable explaination for why one might stick with established retailers and feature items that are available.
I have used the pre-owned EF sites a few times. Everything has been good quality. Half my wardrobe is EF (with lots of mix/match pieces I’ve had for years) and the other half is jjill. I know that jjill is not “budget priced,” but most of the pieces I have had lasted for a long time. I watch for sales. I agree with you that cheap fashion is a terrible idea and wasteful to boot.
I’ve been reading your blog for years now but never (I think?) commented. I did just want to add that I have had very good luck buying Eileen Fisher on eBay, both secondhand and new-with-tags. Vintage eighties and early nineties EF turns up there from time to time, too. And one time I got a perfectly good, lightly worn pair of grey Eileen Fisher jeans for five dollars plus shipping!
I have champagne tastes and – let’s be honest! – more of a sparkling water budget, so I get almost everything second hand. Ebay is a great place for new and gently used cashmere scarves as long as you stick to name brands and sellers with good feedback – there are fakes, but they tend to be no-name “made in Scotland, you bet!” scarves selling for $10. In fact, I was moved to comment because I have a wonderful vintage Bill Blass shawl from eBay printed with a giant polar bear and your lovely leopard scarf reminded me of it.
I also wanted to say that I love the new colors you’re wearing, especially your new glasses!
I’ve read your blog for several years, and even though my body type is completely different from yours (5’8″ and curvy) I’ve learned a lot from your posts. I just turned 55 and one of my goals in the near future is to revamp my wardrobe to function better, and to discover what my evolving style is. One thing that has stopped me is the weight gain/weight loss/weight gain/change of body shape that I’m experiencing in menopause. So frustrating! I’ve been waiting for the dust to settle, so to speak, to see what I’m going to look like!
Thank you for sharing what works for you, as well as pointing us in the direction of what might work for us.
Susan, although I’m not into the color analysis concept, I still enjoy your blog and read it every day. I find you fun and brave and inspiring. You’re someone I’d love to have as a personal friend. Actually I feel I already know you. As the owner of a small older home, I loved following your remodeling project. Your travel wardrobe tips have helped me enormously. You have a very positive attitude towards life, and you lift me up.
Keep up the good work!
Thanks so much, Laura!