|Grand-mère Lucille in Ceylon, 1964|
Last week, an anonymous commenter made a disparaging remark that a J.Crew scarf I’d recommended was “old lady.” While at first it didn’t bother me, as I appreciate that everyone has their own taste and their own associations with certain styles or prints, Duchesse replied that the comment was ageist, and she was right.
By the grace of God, and with no small amount of luck, we’ll all be “old ladies” someday. It sure beats the alternative. When someone uses the term “old lady” as an inherently negative descriptor, it disparages and devalues all of us.
If when describing an article of clothing or a style you mean frumpy, dowdy, matronly, outdated, or even eccentric, use those words instead. And when it comes to living a vibrant, engaged life, youth has no monopoly there either. Don’t assume that just because someone is old that they are closed off or feeble minded or uninterested in new ideas. Let’s rethink our assumptions about what being an older woman means, and let’s toss “old lady” on the linguistic trash heap!
|I’m sure Mamy Rock would agree! Picture originally at Advanced Style.|
And go read this wonderful post from hostess of the humble bungalow.
This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial 3.0 United States License.