Showing Up for Ourselves: 10 Top Style Tips for Women Over 50
Style is a way to visually communicate to the world (and ourselves) who we are on any given day. And as such, style has no age limit. We may each have our own version of what’s “stylish,” but we can continue to develop and evolve our personal style over time. Today I’m sharing my top style tips for women over 50.
Showing up for ourselves
When we are dressed in a way that aligns our inner and outer selves, we will feel more positive and confident. Getting dressed then becomes a form of self-respect and self-care. And when we demonstrate confidence and self-respect, it’s reflected back to us.
But I believe a lot women our age struggle with feeling stylish. Our bodies may change as we go through menopause. We may have grown up with a long list of style rules that are hard to shake, and can feel limiting. Or maybe the latest TikTok-er telling us we should or shouldn’t wear throws us into a spasm of self-doubt. I’m not here to give you more rules, just some tips and guidelines to help you find your own best look, at any age.
Top 10 Style Tips for Women Over 50
Style isn’t a function of age, or body shape, or budget. Here are some tips to help you find confidence-boosting style, no matter where you are in your style journey.
1. Don’t be a slave to trends, but don’t shun them either
How often have we heard, “women over 50 should avoid anything trendy”? I disagree, as long as we approach trends with a discriminating eye.
“Trends” are no longer the dictates they once were, and are at once both more ephemeral and longer-lived than at any time I can remember. And some styles that started out as trends are now considered classic. I look at trends as opportunities. First, they can be an opportunity to find a better selection of colors or styles you’d want to wear anyway. (Hello, low-heeled slingbacks!) And they can be an opportunity to try something new that freshens your wardrobe, and adds a note of currency to your style.
But what they aren’t is mandatory. Personal style > trends any day. If a trend speaks to you, go ahead and give it a whirl. Otherwise, give it a pass.
2. Color matters

(My sizes: Jacket – XS, Tee – Small, Pants – Petite Small)
Wearing colors that are in harmony with your own coloring will make you look more vibrant, energized, rested, alert, competent, and friendly. Colors that are not in harmony will make you look tired, dull, unwell, faded, and even sometimes a little grouchy.
No, I’m not saying you need to dress like a box of Crayolas, but even the right neutrals can make a big difference. If you’re unsure of your best colors, a Personal Color Analysis is a worthwhile investment. If that’s not do-able, play around with different colors in front of a mirror in natural light. Look at the changes in your skin with different colors, to see which make you glow.
3. Have a few go-to outfit formulas

Getting dressed dressed every morning shouldn’t feel like solving a quadratic equation. Having a few easy combos in your back pocket goes a long way toward avoiding those “nothing to wear” days. Whether it’s jeans+top+blazer or dress+accessories, or something else entirely, a formula can be the starting point for effortless outfits.
I’ll drop this here too: don’t feel you have to look completely different every day. It’s OK to repeat outfits. The Fashion Police are not going to issue you a ticket. (And accessories can be key to creating variety, see #7 below.)
4. Quality over quantity
Buy the best quality you can afford. I’m not suggesting you need to buy designer labels, or spend amounts that keep you awake at night. But poorly-made clothing in dishraggy fabrics will wear out faster and look tired and sad, which can drag our whole look down. Better quality clothing will not only last longer, but will often hang better on the body, and incorporate subtle but interesting details that elevate the outfit.
Buy less, choose well, make it last.
Dame Vivienne Westwood
Scrunch the fabric in your hand…does it feel flimsy or more substantial? Look at the fabric composition. How are the seams and buttonholes finished? Are patterns matched at the seams? Take time to acquaint yourself with brands that produce higher quality clothing and accessories.
Yes, I hear you, it CAN be much harder to find quality clothing at your price point these days. If your budget is very tight, you can always search for those quality-delivering brands on resale sites like ThredUp or Poshmark. And Eileen Fisher has their Renew program.
(And let’s not forget the human and environmental component of cheap fashion. If a pair of jeans costs $20 new, the person making them was probably paid pennies a day. Tee shirts that wear out after 1 or 2 washes will end up in a landfill.)
5. De-tox your closet
A closet that’s stuffed to the gills will make it harder to get dressed every day. It not only feels overwhelming and anxiety-making, but you won’t be able to SEE what you have. So you may end up re-buying similar items over and over. (And tightly packed clothes can be a haven for moths.) I like to go through my closet at the end of each season, clear out (if needed) and reorganize. If your closet feels overwhelming, I’ve shared some tips to tackle it here: Closet cleanse 101: the ultimate wardrobe detox guide
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6. Shop for building blocks, not outfits
A cohesive wardrobe, with pieces that can be worn in multiple combinations, will help you create a consistent personal look, and do more with less. Rather than shopping for “outfits,” think about your style formula(s) (see #3 above) and what components will add value to what you already have. (Not monetary value, but expanded styling options.)
Shopping for an “outfit” can often result in one or more pieces that are specific only to that outfit, and don’t work with anything else. So you end up with a bunch of closet orphans.
If you’re refreshing or rebuilding your wardrobe, focus first on basics (whatever those are for you). They’re the foundation of your style and the starting point for your day-to-day outfits.
7. Leverage the power of accessories
Accessories can be the style “secret sauce” that adds personality, and makes even simple outfits look more pulled-together and intentional. A switch of accessories can make an outfit more or less formal, or seasonally appropriate.
8. Pay attention to fit
This is one of the most-overlooked style tips I see on women over 50. I’m not saying that everything has to be tailored to within an inch of its life. But clothing that fits properly goes a long way toward elevating our style.
While including pieces with a relaxed fit can look more current, a head-to-toe look that’s baggy or oversized can look sloppy, and as though we’ve given up. On the other hand, clothing that’s too tight, pulls, or bunches up where it shouldn’t will look cheap.
I like to balance proportions by styling a more relaxed item with a more fitted or structured one. And sometimes a simple tweak such as changing a hem by 1″ or nipping in a waistband, or even just rolling or pushing up sleeves, can make all the difference in how something fits and looks.
9. But don’t sacrifice comfort
It’s hard to feel or look our best when we’re not physically comfortable. While we all have different tolerances, in general it’s best to avoid anything that binds, bunches, itches, rides up, needs constant adjusting, is too warm or too cool.
Look for fabrics that breathe and in cuts that allow you to move about your day without encumbrance. Don’t settle for shoes that hurt your feet. (With so many comfortable styles like sneakers and flats in fashion today, you’ll have lots of options.) Avoid bags that are so heavy they cause neck and shoulder pain. (Hooray for crossbody styles!)
Honor your body by dressing for the size and shape you are now.
10. Make it personal
The “best” style comes from the inside out. We are all complex beings, and trying to fit any narrow definition, whether defined by age, body type, the latest viral trend (e.g. “Mob Wife” or “Cottagecore”) will leave us feeling flat. When we have that feeling of wearing “someone else’s clothes,” it undermines our sense of self.
But when what you wear feels aligned with who you are, it’s like a puzzle piece snapping into place. I think when people talk about “effortless style,” this is really the underlying feeling they’re aiming for. But it can take some work to get there. 😉
Whether you start with a 3 word formula, your Style Personality Profile, or a moodboard or other visual tool, it may take some trial and error to find that “click.” As women over 50, we’ve learned to trust our gut in many areas of our lives, and style is no different. Start with an idea, try it, then do a gut-check. And don’t be afraid to switch things up now and then to keep that alignment.
Style can be a way of showing up for ourselves in a world that may often treat us as though we’re invisible. So yes, style still matters over 50, over 60, 70, and beyond.
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What a helpful post, Susan. I don’t think I truly found my style until my 50s. Now, 10 years later, I know right away if I love something and if it will work in my wardrobe. This all came about from blog posts like yours today. I follow several bloggers who have given me great guidance over the years and helped me determine my style and how to dress well. I’m a pretty casual, but refined dresser. I wear mostly neutrals in my best colors. I honestly love everything in my closet. Thanks for giving us the guidance many of us have needed and were looking for most of our lives!
I really enjoyed this. Your blog is one that I look forward to receiving and reading. These were very good tips! Even though I knew some of them, I enjoyed your take and reminder. I recently turned 61, and feel that I’m more in touch with my style than ever. Thanks to blogs like yours, my wardrobe is good quality and stylish. Getting dressed or packing a capsule wardrobe is a joy!
Great post, Susan, as today I am working on the great closet changeover from winter to summer and trying to clear out things that don’t fit or don’t work right now. I am going to make some space before shopping and try to be very intentional this season.
Have a joyous summer!
I really enjoyed this post Susan. I am still finding my style and it is helpful to keep these nuggets of advice in my mind while shopping. Your column has introduced me to some brands I would not have otherwise known of. Thank you.
So beautifully said, Susan. Such wisdom in your words. Thank you.
Could we use >60 years. At fifty most women I know are still working and raising families ( heck I had an eight year old) this would not have been a blog I could have related to and I would have rolled my eyes taking fashion advice from someone old enough to be my mother but…at 68 yes!! I hear you now.
I am 51 and not rolling my eyes.
Thank you Susan, your tips are ageless and timeless, and so helpful.
I love those snake print loafers! They’re above my budget limits, and I couldn’t wear them, as I need either a boot or a lace-up shoe. I’ll keep searching for them in that beautiful snake print. So useful to dress up an outfit!
Great post. You’re a wonderful writer – easy going, conversational, straight forward – and this information is very helpful. Once again and as always, thanks!
Thanks for the tips, Susan, all of which I wholeheartedly embrace. Looking forward to more posts with details, outfits, and items for all of the 10 Style Personalities (especially my own, Natural Classic), as mentioned in this post from January: https://unefemme.net/classic-style-personality-profile.html.
I agree with Michelle: At 61, living casually for everyday and traveling – within my means – my personal style is relaxed (soft and approachable), put-together, and streamlined.
Susan, I really like the way you model your clothing. You stand very naturally, with one leg slightly in front of the other. It’s flattering both to you and to the clothing you’re modeling. So many of the bloggers I follow stand with their legs crossed as far as they can manage. I’m sure they are trying to look as slim as possible, but it just makes them looks like they have to pee, urgently! Your modeling is very elegant. You have been my style guru for several years. I thoroughly enjoy your blog.
Wow! I think I’ll come back to this post again and again.
I’m interested to think about my style profile vs my actual life. In my former working life at a public library, I dressed for a busy work place, where I needed to be practical and comfortable, but put together with personality.
Now, retired and post pandemic, I feel a little lost with a style profile. I dress to exercise, I dress to garden, I dress to play with and care for grandchildren.
Only occasionally do I dress to socialize at a restaurant, or to have an outing with friends, or my husband. AKA, not a hike!
Thinking about what I would pack for a vacation might be my way of thinking about a style profile. Taking tours, visiting museums, going to restaurants I’ve been looking forward to trying. That would all involve dressing with personal style.
So…dressing for my typical day vs dressing with personal style. How to bring those two things together? Food for thought.
PS. I did a quick google search for clothing brands that have resale sites. Some interesting information out there! Seems to be a growing idea.
Fantastic post! Every point was extremely helpful!
I’m 71 and I wore a uniform to school and again in my working life. I never really developed a style and still dont seem to have one. I think I like something so buy it but never will wear it.
Excellent post! Working for some 30 years in a professional job I never had a problem defining my style; now that I am retired it has taken me a few years to get in the groove. I moved from NY to the desert of California six years ago. It has taken me six years to feel comfortable here; I finally realized how to carry over my fashion sense to make it work for this local. I follow you because you are in the LA area and I admire your style. Retirement brings so few social engagements but it has also upped the grandparent duties so I have learned to put the money into jeans and quality shoes. Also, knowing one’s colors is so helpful!
Absolutely dead on, these tips. Colour does so much for me (as neutrals are not). And my body shape requires alterations of most trousers. I cannot find the best fit in the shops as I have a broad waist with small hips and bum. My best trick is to buy a pair of fitted trousers with darts at the back in a medium. They will fit well but for the waist. The tailor opens the darts, cuts out a piece of fabric from the inside of the waistband, replaces that with other fabric and uses the cut piece to broaden the waistband at the back. Works like a dream.
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I like the phrase “align the inner and outer self” but sometimes that could be dangerous., I think! Fun but risky!!! Like the days my inner self is rocking to 70’s music but my outer self is showing my 70’s age self!!!